We quite often say “There is no failure, only winning and Learning”. My friend and colleague Helen Kerrison from ‘A New Way of Being’ in the UK sent this incredible article on The Benefits of Failing. It caught my eye because of the word ‘Failing’ and because it was from JK Rowling who many of us would not have associated the term of ‘failure’ to.
“I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short lived marriage had imploded and I was jobless, a lone parent and as poor as possible without being homeless. The fears my parents had for me and that I had for myself, had both come to pass! And by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew” These are the words of JK Rowling.
She goes on to say that at that moment she had a breakthrough because she ‘stopped pretending’ and basically owned who she was being at that time, riddled with fear and fear of failure. It’s at that point we have a choice to continue down that fearful path or not.
How many of you have felt like you have been or are in a similar place? I respect where she was at, and I am so glad I chose a different path. The neural networks set up by our inheritance, language, schooling, peer groups can absolutely be changed. New neural pathways can be built for you to follow anytime you wish.
Dr Srini Pillay, a brain research scientist calls this ‘The Power of Unfocus’. Sometimes we focus on what we don’t want and we get more of it. Imagine surrendering to the realisation that there are other possibilities and allowing those possibilities to come to you by ‘unfocusing’? I love this. He also adds that we begin to pick up fear from a seven month old baby so having options to unfocus from fear would be great. You can check out his full show on the recent Living Consciously TV Show link below.
It’s like the ‘Inductive Thinker’ (only looking inside the box) or the ‘Deductive Thinker’ who looks for choices outside the box. It only takes one time to experience this option for you to give it another go. I would not be well today if I had not made that choice.
So if fear is holding you back in this beautiful new year of beginnings, come and see how easily it may be to let it go and for you to Be, Do and Have whatever it is your heart desires. Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org for more information.