Receiving. Why Should We Learn to Receive? Could Receiving improve your Health?
When someone gives you a comment, how often do you brush it off? What is it that stops us from receiving compliments? When I was learning NLP, I learnt how important receiving was and realised it was an area I really had to work on. In our DNA make up and life we have masculine and feminine archetypes. The masculine archetype is the giver, the teacher, the teller and many more, while the feminine archetype is the receiver. Much of my life was about Giving in my home life and career. Being in sports and fitness and teaching daily I was constantly giving advice, information etc. This in fact can be controlling. Now that statement may ‘urk’ some of you until you really think about it. Giving, whilst wonderful in itself may also be controlling. The giver chooses the information or the gift, chooses the person or people they will give that to and the time. In fact they are in total control of the whole process. Then when the people or person want to give a compliment back they often ‘push it away’ or ignore it because it is not totally easy to accept it in that state of masculine energy. Let me give you an example. I was teaching big audiences years ago in Melbourne. One day the whole audience stood up and gave me a standing ovation. I had no idea what to do with such a jesture so I turned my back on the audience and cried and I told them to sit down because after all I was only doing what I was trained to do. I realised how rude that was but deep inside my psyche of ‘Not being good enough”, I could not cope, and therefore I could not receive such a compliment. The compliment to me did not match the way I felt about me.
Have you had a similar experience? Or many similar experiences? Most of the coaching clients that come to me with any auto immune disease have only learnt the art of giving and are yet to learn the art of receiving. Why do I know that? Because I was one of those people. It means we could start working on us to feel great about who we are and all the great things we were put on this planet to do. Then we may even start to like our ‘quirky’ bits like our bigger thighs and bums, hair length etc. When you look in the mirror and only think of what you can do and the great things about you, I believe you are learning the art of receiving love to yourself. That love then reflects out of you and the world changes because you changed. It’s a necessary and profound beginning to you receiving great things for you.
Recently I began sponsoring a village in Africa and through the art of receiving we now have a piggery, a chicken house with 800 chickens, some crops and a corn mill in that village and a brilliant plan for the village to learn how to receive and maintain their self sufficiency so they can pass a whole new way of living down to the next generation. It’s not about doing anything on your own. By receiving help from others in your relationships, career, family and spiritual lives, just see the changes that receiving can make.