I was again asked on the weekend to look into a child’s eyes to see why they are having some difficulty at school recalling. Most of these children are actually very bright but do not find it easy to recall information and let their teachers or parents know. This may leave them with a reputation not totally applicable to who they really are. They are unaware of how to access their information using various eye patterns. This often can be attributed to inability to read or spell hence the name dyslectic.
So what does an Eye Pattern mean? You may have heard that the eyes are the windows of the soul. Well what that is saying is that we store information in our brain in filing cabinets. We are actually organised beings. The eyes can access each of these filing cabinets once you know where everything is stored and how to move the pupil of your eye to that area. I found this fabulous not only for myself, as my memory now is excellent, but for everyone I meet because they tell me so much with their eyes. So let me draw a picture that may assist you first.
We can use our eyes to access all our brains filing cabinets whether we are recalling, constructing, checking our feelings on a subject or accessing our accounts. We may not be aware of that. Once we learn how to do that and practice that we realise we have a great memory or ability to recall.
The confusion often happens with children in a family where one parent is left handed. The child may also be exposed to a left handed grandparent as their carer or significant other. I want to make it very clear that left handed people are wonderful and many of our super stars in sport and many other fields are in fact left handed. However when a left handed child copies a right handed person’s eye patterns, it can have them unable to recall information correctly. Many of these children, I believe are miss-diagnosed by the school and or teacher as having a learning disorder.
The problem may be though that the left handed person files their information in exactly the opposite way to a right handed person. So, if you are a right handed child and you model your eye patterns on a left handed carer then you may be a little confused as to where you access your information. That is why we can make dramatic changes to a child’s learning and recalling in such a short time. We simply check out their eye patterns by asking a few questions and teach them to look in the recall area until it becomes a new and exciting habit. They can move out of “special” classes into regular or even accelerated classes very quickly.
Imagine working with your child for 10 minutes a day and they now get 100% in spelling? Recently I was teaching a boy from Uganda who is out here in Australia. I showed him how to access his brains filing system for his spelling words. He loved this so much his confidence grew everytime I visited him. One day he forgot to bring his spelling list so I suggested he may like to go up to his visually recall section with his eyes and tell me what words he was given. He not only remembered every word, he then got to spell them correctly. This is very exciting for a child of any age. Then we worked on his maths while he looked down into his “fact” file where auditory digital sits. His progression was exciting. With 10 minutes a day practice this is an easy skill to practice and can change the child dramatically.
Most children with learning difficulties are looking into their construction filing system to recall and wondering why they don’t recall anything. It may also explain why these children always want to create, draw and colour because that is where they access most of their information and can express themselves this way.
There are some simple questions you could ask to find out where your child is looking. Make sure your child is relaxed. Some of those questions may include:
- What was the colour of your first toy? Room? This flushes out their visual recall pattern
- What would your toy or room look like if it was painted purple? This flushes out their visual construct pattern
- What was the sound of your first pet when you were growing up? This flushes out their auditory recall pattern
- What would mummy sound like if she spoke like Daffy Duck? This flushes out their auditory construct pattern
- Do you know your 2 times tables? This flushes out their auditory digital pattern
- What did it feel like for you over Christmas, or your last holiday etc? This flushes out their feelings
You can make up a list of questions to suit your child. You may only need to ask a couple to see where they take their eyes. You can actually work out if a child is right or left handed before they pick up a pen simply by looking at their eye patterns. Most children who use both hands tend to have left handed eye patterns. Those children forced to write right handed even though they are born left handed have reversed eye patterns.
The work I have also done with ADHD Children also allows me to look at where these children look. They usually access their kinaesthetic or “feeling” section of their brain as all the ADHD children I have worked with to date represent the world through their feelings. That is why they are often looking down, wanting to touch others or sit on laps, do not respond to talking or looking as they do not hear or see what you hear or see. This is why you can simply touch them and they will come to the table or help you clean their room. They love hugs and therefore do not always get their needs met in a “touchless” school system.
28 children have decided with their parents to come off the drugs and with nutritional supplementation in the form of magnesium, essential fatty acids and sometimes Brahmi, and a little help in showing them how to access various areas in their brain, they do not need to go back on this drug. Hair samples have shown common deficiencies in minerals, especially magnesium.
I write this article NOW because the best time to do this is the school holidays. It can take days for the drug to leave their system and they tend to increase their eating and thus growth is inevitable because this is also suppressed when on the drugs.
I am so passionate about this that I have written to the Prime Minister’s Office to see if we could include this information into teacher training moving forward. You however can learn this NOW.
The Kids n NLP and Effective Parenting/Teaching is here in Sydney on February 14 and 15 and it is a great way to learn more about your child or children generally. If you would like to look at this course in assisting you, please contact us NOW on 0418960366 or email firstname.lastname@example.org