Happy New You.

2017 numerologically is a ‘one’ year or a year of beginnings. While many people thought last year was challenging, I actually had a brilliant year. Whether or not it was good or not so totally good is in the past now. We have a chance to start fresh right now. So Happy New You is the key to starting fresh. The year is going to present its trials and tribulations and its wonder and joy and your perception will judge it according to your past experiences. If the year is just going to happen anyway, then wouldn’t it be great to just focus on YOU NOW. This will allow you to:

• Face everything that presents in a more confident manner.
• Send out positive energy so all those people around you get your vibe.
• Allow you to get into flow with what presents rather than experiencing large ups and downs.

When I look at the last year I see such a similar pattern of behaviour in human behaviour, the weather and the world. Again in 2017 there is a great deal of change happening, in fact some people would call it a turbulence. Look at the changes in weather patterns, global financial crisis situations, terror attacks in various least expected places. And look at the solidarity that comes from the mass in response to those attacks. Now look more closely to what’s going on in your own life and of those around you. While this turbulence can be deemed as frightening by some, it’s also a great time to embrace the opportunities that come from these changes.

The way I see it you have two choices right now in January 2017

1. You focus on all the negative that is going on and use those circumstances to stop yourself from moving forward
2. You say ‘Next” and only create circumstances to follow your dreams because you are still here and you were put here for a reason. Step into your power and go 4 it.

Bob Proctor would call it “A Terror Barrier Time” where you go forward and break through the Barrier or go back to safety of what is comfortable and digress, rationing lies (rationalising) why you don’t have to move forward. Maslow would say “you can step forward into the growth or back into safety”. Peter Drucker says “while a time of turbulence is a dangerous time, its greatest danger is a temptation to deny reality”.

Like Drucker, I believe “a time of turbulence is also one of great opportunity for those who can understand, accept and exploit the new realities”. It’s a time of excitement for greater opportunities to present themselves. If we are scared of this turbulence then we are unlikely to take any of the opportunities presented to us. I am truly excited to see what is on the other side of the chaos and step into it to make great change both in myself, in my business and in others.

Understanding this chaotic turbulence will allow you to step through it also and look for the NEW possibilities. There will be a choice that you have to make at some level. You can stabilise at a less functional state taking you, your health and your business downward, OR you can reorganise at a higher functioning, more coherent state as a part of an upward spiral. This is called “A State of Confusion” by Ilya Prigogine or “Prigogines Postulation called the Bifurcation Point. (Prigogine won the Nobel Prize in Chemistry in 1977). The bifurcation point is the exact point where we decide to change or not. Because we are energy, we move in one direction or another. Staying the same usually means we are digressing as nothing stays the same.

Your success in this time will be what decisions you make moving forward and how quickly you’re able to shift your thinking and your strategies to suit the changes that are occurring. This can be a scary and very exciting time which is the essence of any new goal.

I am passionate in assisting people to make great positive change in their world. If you would like assistance to get through this interestingly scary and exciting time I would love to help. Email Lynda at lynda@mindpowerglobal.com.au and let’s talk.

On my recent 11 day tour through Victoria. One of the topics I taught was ‘Hormones and the Heart’. Then on the way home I was listening to Vision Australia Radio and this chap was talking about two negative emotions that affect the heart. Jealousy and Shame. He talked about how these emotions can adversely affect the health of the heart as they are both related to stress. Jealousy is related to something you have, but you want something or someone else. This negative emotion is ‘other focus’.

Shame is related to something you own or did so it is related to ‘self focus’. Either way they both may contribute to unhealthy heart conditions through stress. In an article written in The Art Of Healing Magazine by Diana Rose Kottle on ‘The Art of Healing our Toxic Emotions’ she writes:

Shame is one of those taboo topics whose discussion is usually avoided at all costs. The things that make us feel shame may actually be some of the least comfortable things to talk about… ever.

I used to feel that I would rather die than talk about ‘my shame’. It felt shameful to even identify with feeling shame. And when that feeling got triggered, it not only felt like everyone around me could see the scarlet shame story – and the crimson fear I carried around with it – but also that they were also judging me harshly for it. This only added potent lighter fuel to the already-toxic emotional cauldron of fiery feelings, creating an even bigger swirling downward shame spiral in me.

The shame voice in my head — which had an anxious fear-based quality to its tone — would create whole stories and entire scenarios around things that were not even happening, outside of my mind. Yet the feeling in my body was one of terror, pain and collapse, as if the ‘shame fantasy’, the shame filled illusions my mind was creating, were the most ‘real’ thing on the planet. I felt completely exposed and naked; I felt ashamed of my shame. Can you relate to this?

Wouldn’t it be great to have a session with someone that could give you the space to talk through this? Why I say this is because recently a person died of a ‘Heart Attack’ and the arterial wall was only 30% occluded (stuffed) so there was no physical sign of a heart attack. Could our negative Emotions be killing us????????

Diane goes on to say “Facing your shame head on will eventually allow you to see it for the distortion that it is. We do not have to water or cultivate our toxic emotions with more toxic emotions (fear, anxiety, worry, anger, embarrassment, guilt); we can decide to simply remove whichever weeds from our garden we choose.

And we can even stop viewing shame and fear as the enemy and choose to have compassion for the deeply insecure, hurt and wounded parts of ourselves that hold and carry these toxic emotions around.

Exposing your light, shining your authentic truth, and choosing love, will alchemise the fear, transmuting the darkness, setting you free an liberating you from the stifling shadow of shame.

When we speak about what we are ashamed of, and when we face our fears directly, we shed light on the very things that keep us bound in knots, paralysed and internally crippled. Sharing our shame (with people we trust) lightens the burden we carry and connects us to the light.

You can get your copy of ‘The Art of Healing Magazine’ at www.theartofhealing.com.au

Recently on the Living Consciously TV Show we have had two guests that have spoken about Living Longer and Living Well. Dr Mario Martinez was the first guest and he was stating that it has been proven by scientific research that only 20% of us is genetically inherited and up to 80% of our health and wellness is from the environment we associate ourselves in during our life.

When I was studying psychology we were taught that this was more like 50/50. So this latest research is profound for many reasons.

1. We can no longer blame our parents for our health and wellness problems because of ‘what we inherited’. While they do give us a genetic code, we can change that imprint anytime we want.
2. Our diet, the people we associate ourselves with, the air, water, stress and thought processes ALL affect our aging process.
3. That means We Are Responsible for our Aging Process ….. Oh NO!!! It also means we can live healthy for as long as we like as long as we make the choice and the changes to do that. Yeah!!!

Dr Mario Martinez says “More than a theory and practice, ‘biocognition’ is a way of life that shifts operative consciousness, rather than modify behaviour”.

So our mindset is absolutely the key to our health and aging process. Dr Martinez only studies people who are over 100 years of age who are well. There is so much to learn from his work.

The next guest on our show was Dr Aimon Kopera. Dr Kopera talked about the same scientific research and how finding out your genetic code could be invaluable. She calls her work ‘Epigenetics’. She talked about some of the key areas that we can change to have great health and longevity. Some of those are no surprises and include:

1. Exercise in a variety of ways
2. Discover your purpose in life, have a reason to get out of bed each day.
3. Take a break, have a nap every day, meditate, and find ways to de-stress.
4. Eat smaller amounts of food with heaps of vegetables and fish regularly. Eat less meat.
5. Friends and Social activities are very important
6. What are your thoughts and Belief Patterns? Are they aligned to positivity?
7. Family matters. Enjoy them, socialise with them and walk with them.

These are some of the nine principles that Dr Kopera talks about in her new book coming out soon on modifiable elements of human life. She believes that nutrition, physical activity and obesity are “winnable battles.”  Research by Blue Zones Scientist Group and other organizations indicates they have a direct correlation to living a long and healthy life. According to the Institute for Aging Research longevity is 80% environment and 20% genetics (Langreth).

I will be meeting Dr Kopera at the EIPPY Book Awards in the USA this month and can’t wait to bring you more of what she is offering. My next book on ‘Age Is An Attitude’ will definitely highlight some of these scientific studies so we get the latest research and information.

We are born so pure and innocent. We are born from a reunion of love. So why is it that for some reason so many people feel that we need to be told what we are not good at or that we require changing? I believe we just need to be loved and guided.

I read a story yesterday in the latest ‘Art of Healing’ online magazine. It was a story about an autistic boy who was diagnosed at the age of two years of age and put into a ‘special’ system for autistic kids. The mother could not bear to see her son shrug away from life and lose all of his enthusiasm so she took him out of the system and home schooled him. She allowed him to imagine, to look at the stars and create pictures that were very different. She prepared him for kindergarten and regular school. His special intelligence was soon realised and at the age of 11 he is was put into University with an IQ higher than Einstein solving scientific problems no-one up until now could have solved. A mother’s LOVE allowed this to happen. Love is a very powerful motivator for us to take action and feel worthy.

Not only is this about loving others, but loving who we are as adults, carers, teachers, trainers and parents because we influence so many people through the way we think and act. Whether we believe it or not the ‘Law of Attraction’ works. If we put out love, we attract more love back.

Joe Dispenza in his book on ‘Evolve your Brain’ (page 409) says “The brain chemistry of love is completely different from the chemistry we all produce in survival mode. The love potion released in the midbrain creates bonding. By falling in love with our ideal, we are chemically bonding with a new version of ourselves”.

When we are in love nothing seems as important as that love. Imagine building all the new synaptic connections (pathways) in the brain from a place of love. Children are the most happiest when they are young and playful and feel loved. So why does that change?

So if we want to emanate love out, it may be great to see children as perfect beings. It may also be great to communicate to children that they are always more than what they seem. When a child comes up to you and says something negative about themselves it may be great to say “So what else are you”? When they answer, ask again “You are even more than that aren’t you? So what else are you? You can continue this until they have physically changed their state and can walk away feeling great about themselves.

Children tend to feel ‘less than’ when they compare themselves with someone else. Rather than look at all the things they can do, they may focus their attention on the one or two things they are not so totally good at, which may leave them with a low self-image.

Our job as carers, parents, teachers and trainers, I feel, is to ask them great questions that may highlight what that child is great at. For example, “I bet you are great at reading, or playing or singing etc”. You see it is easy for a child that habitually goes to their negative feelings for themselves to continue to do that because it is wired in their neural network and it has an emotion stuck to it. By going there the child could think that they will get more attention. So retraining the child to see things differently and create a more positive loving picture of themselves is not deemed totally easy because there may be little reference for them to go back to. The frontal lobe has to create that new picture and the child will then attach a new emotion to it. By repeating that new positive picture with the child you can help them create a new image about themselves. A loving image. To do that we have to send love out during the process.

If the child begins to love the concept of their new self- image from your great questioning, to have them thinking differently, then they will eventually attach a loving emotion to those feelings and that will eventually be their new image.

Many children are taught to stop thinking about themselves. I think we should encourage children to think about themselves in a loving and positive way. It is not self-centred as that is thinking about you despite others around you. It’s in a way that is self-centred. When I first learnt this it was so far out of my comfort zone it was uncomfortable.

We were asked to stand in front of a mirror and say what was great about us. We were also asked to say what we would like to improve. That second list of what we could improve was very long. If you think about it people had always been telling us how we could improve. Imagine if the lists were reversed because we had allowed children to feel great about who they are. Encouraging this positive list could assist a child to see themselves in a whole new light.

Love is the answer. Loving you, loving what you do and loving everyone around you. It’s calming, empowering and allows everyone to be in control of their own lives and responsible for their own feelings, actions and beliefs.

The Universe wants you to love you. You were created as a pure loving being. Let’s get back to that reality. What a joy that would be.

Why Confidence? I love this quote from Stephen Bowe wrote:

“God’s Gift to you is more talent and ability

Than you can use in your lifetime

Your gift is to the Universe is to use as much

Of your talent and ability as you can

In your lifetime”

 

If our confidence is low we cannot achieve what we want to achieve. Most people want to be self-reliant and assured. They want to feel confident and competent and sure of themselves. They want to get the best results possible. They want to feel good about themselves.

What is Self- Esteem? Confidence in one’s own worth or abilities; self-respect, self-regard, pride in oneself, self-confidence, confidence, self-assurance, assurance. Our entire life revolves around images. Every car, business, shopping centre, school bags, toys etc. all have their own image. That image will attract you or turn you away from it. It is no different with us.

Bob Proctor says “Science and Psychology have isolated the one prime cause for success or failure in life. It is the hidden self-image that you have of yourself”. So your Self-Image controls you, your mind, your beliefs and therefore all of your results. It is built up from genetics, past experiences, copied behaviour, comments, successes and failures.

The one thing I learnt years ago is that you cannot out-perform your own self-image. Your results in your life are directly linked to your self-image and how you feel about you. So, the minute you begin to feel better about who you are, the more you can accomplish, and the more you may influence others to do the same.

So what’s going on? Why do a great number of children and adults lack confidence? There could be various reasons for this including:

• Experiences growing up. There may have been an experience or many experiences that you’ve had in your life growing up. The messages that these experiences have given you may not have been perceived as very positive about the kind of person you are. If your experiences have been negative, your beliefs about yourself are likely to be negative too.
• Copied stress or negative self-image from a parent, sibling, grandparent, or carer. Children are the best at copying behaviour so who or what were they copying in your household?
• Failing to ‘fit in’ with the peer group and may feel as if they are the odd one out.
• Failing to meet parental or family standards.
• Lacking in the skills to perform the tasks given to them
• A lack of praise, love, positivity or compliments at home or at school
• A lack of self-worth or self-belief.
• A one-time significant event that became image destroying or took away their confidence.

Various times where they feel like they ‘don’t deserve’ and/or don’t feel good enough’. These are the top two limiting beliefs in people all around the world. If you would like to clear these limiting beliefs I have one day workshops here in Sydney and in Adelaide soon.

When I worked with Dr Shan Visvalingham, rest his soul, he learnt a great deal about the health of children and he taught me a great deal. He said at one point that no baby born today has sufficient minerals in their system. So if we do nothing else, a good mineral supplement could assist so many children. Here is a small section of what Sandy Sanderson from Elektra Lifewrote in my new book ‘Creating Confident Kids’ on Magnesium for children.

“Children, being little people, have smaller bodies which react more quickly to stimuli. They are more sensitive to chemicals, dehydration or eating junk food laden with sugar and processed carbohydrates. They will therefore react more quickly compared to an adult exposed to the same stresses. When magnesium is low they will react even more acutely, sometimes with bizarre behaviours. One jellybean could set them off flying around the room with uncontrolled hyperactivity, followed by an energy slump and utter exhaustion.

Birthday parties with sugary cupcakes, fairy bread and soft drinks end up being a disaster for parents with children who are magnesium deficient because magnesium deficiency shows up as ‘sugar sensitivity’. Processed sugar and carbohydrates steal the little bit of magnesium their tiny bodies do store, leaving their cells unprotected with inadequate magnesium levels and prone to inflammatory responses and hyperactivity. It is too often the case that this ‘elevated state’ and inability to focus, sit still or concentrate is sometimes misdiagnosed as ADHD, when the symptoms are actually a sign of magnesium deficiency. As this deficiency is corrected by increasing magnesium availability, the symptoms subside and disappear”.

Sandy has written an extensive article in the chapter on Nutrition so look out for it in October.