What a great topic to start the year off. The Macquarie Dictionary says that ‘Accountability’ is being responsible. I am so excited to read that because I think one of my purposes on this planet is to teach people how they can achieve that. I worked on it for years. It’s a tough gig.
I believe ‘Accountability’ and ‘Being Responsible’ is linked to Cause and Effect. Let me explain this further. When we are at EFFECT we blame others for what is going on in our life. Eg. You make me angry. She did this to me. He speaks to me badly. His teacher doesn’t get him. I’m this way because of my parents. That cockroach frightens me. This upsets me.
How many times do you say things like that? What we are doing when we say those things is put the BLAME for our state or behaviour onto someone or something else. That may feel good for a moment but then you realise that by doing that the person or thing you blame has your POWER. So now you feel DISEMPOWERED. How many of us let an incident or a person run our life?
Well, in 2016 it’s time to change. GET YOUR PERSONAL POWER BACK. Be accountable for everything you say and do. By doing this you are totally in control of you, your behaviour and your emotions. You see in reality, no-one affects me without my consent. No-one makes me happy, no-one makes me sad, no-one makes me anything without my consent. I AM RESPONSIBLE. I allow people to affect me. I actually give them permission.
I AM RESPONSIBLE for my thoughts, feelings and actions and ALL of my results.
This is a great saying to put all around the house to remind you that YOU are IN CHARGE of YOUR LIFE. You are only accountable to you because you are responsible for all your beliefs actions and therefore your results. YOU ARE.
So what happens if someone blames you for the way they feel? You can ask them a great question like “So what do you think I did for you to choose to feel that way about me? Then you get them to be responsible for their behaviour and you don’t take it on board yourself. Negative comments are eventually like water off a ducks back when you get how this works. They are more about the person saying them than they ever were about you. It also keeps your mood uplifted and positive because you are responsible for how you feel.
Another comment could be “That is an interesting perspective, I have not looks at it from that perception before” (and you may never look at it from that perception), because at the end of the day anything what anybody says about an incident or a person is only a perception coming from the filtration system in their mind which is full of past experiences and hand me down stuff.
Why do we hear all the time that police need many people to come forward to give their perception of an incident or accident? Because we all have our own perception and biases from past experiences. So they need to weigh up lots of perceptions to get an idea of what really happened.
So to become accountable in 2016, I suggest you may like to be responsible for all your thoughts feelings and actions to get the result you want and the minute you go to BLAME someone say NEXT to dismiss that thought and to KEEP YOUR PERSONAL POWER. You can do this.